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Eliana
My
husband and I spent approximately three and a half
years in the process of adopting our daughter from China. As those who
have
adopted internationally know, there is a tremendous amount of
preparation,
research, paperwork, etc. that goes into the adoption process and
brings a
family to the point when they are given the referral (photo and medical
report)
of the child that has been matched with them.
We
got Eliana's referral when she was eight months
old. There were two things I noticed about the referral that concerned
me. The
first was that she looked so distant and sad in the photos we were
given (see
"Ellye Sitting" and "Ellye Walker"). The second thing was
that her medical report said she was "quiet, shy and liked being in her
own world." To me, these indicated that she was probably not getting
all
of her emotional needs met and was a bit withdrawn from life, most
likely due
to lack of stimulation. (*Please note, this is NOT the fault of the
orphanage;
they do the best they can with the limited resources they are provided
with.).
It
was around this time that I first learned about Q-T
and I specifically signed up for the course to use it with our daughter
and her
attachment. I began distant healing 18 days before we got her (from the
night
that the workshop covered distant healing), envisioning her attaching
to us,
happy and secure.
We
were told to expect a child that was grieving, and
that our child could reject us for up to one week or more. Eliana was
placed in
my arms at the civil affairs office and immediately fell into a deep
sleep; she
woke up laughing and giggling for me. She was the largest and
healthiest baby
in our adoption group. In fact, seven babies came from the same
orphanage as
Eliana during the week we got her, and four of the babies made trips to
the
local hospital. The only quantifiable difference between Eliana and the
other
children was that we had used Q-T and the other families had not.
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When
we got Eliana she was ten months old and she was
developmentally behind (couldn't even hold her head up). Since then, we
have
continued with Q-T, mostly via distant healing because she is very
sensitive to
energy. When she had her 12 month check up, Eliana tested at the
developmental
level of a 15 month old; there are other babies who are catching up,
but most
were still behind. Eliana is developmentally ahead (according to target
skills)
and that was after we had only had her for 11 weeks; thank you Q-T!!!
When
I took Eliana to her 12 month check up, the
doctor asked if she was my biological child. I explained to him, "No,
we
adopted her from China." Then, at the end of the appointment he asked
me
how long Eliana had been with us. When I told him 11 weeks, he almost
fell
over! He said, "I cannot believe that. Looking at her developmentally
and
how attached she is to you, I would have guessed you adopted her at one
week
old, not ten months old!"
I
had quoted the orphanage report that said Eliana was
"quiet, shy and liked being in her own world." Today, Eliana is
anything BUT quiet or shy, and she LOVES being with people. She talks
all the
time, sings, chases anything that has to do with Elmo and adores music.
She is
completely opposite the original photos and report. I am so glad to see
her
thriving as much as she is. It just makes my heart glow.
I
continue to use Q-T with Eliana on a regular basis.
In March, I will have completed the last of the requirements for my
instructor
certification and it is my hope to run live basic workshops in Los
Angeles,
Portland and Dallas this summer specifically for adoptive parents or
other
parents wishing to learn how to use Q-T for attachment purposes.
We
are so pleased, and I am so glad I stumbled upon
Q-T. I am completely hooked!
Take care,
Shellye
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